My mom is another really influential person in my life. She takes me to these performances and dances. I love to be on stage. I love to sing and perform. I have that part of me that love to be expressing and be on stage and to deliver whatever I want to share with the world. That has I guess been suppressed in a way because of the Cultural Revolution that really caused my parents to suppress me whenever I want to be outspoken. I get punished for being outspoken. In a way, maybe that is part of the history of the China Cultural Revolution. That situation has this effect on my family and also suppressing my desire to express. For a long time, I was very shy and timid. I think that was me. Not remembering how when I was little, I’d love to be on stage and perform and dance and be my true self. I only come to discover that later in life when I had a work with my coach, Sheffra. Only then I realized that that was my true self is one that wants to express. When I get in touch with my true self and my highest self and knowing, especially when I got in touch with my life’s calling and my life message, I was able to bring up this courage, that fearlessness. All my fear went away.
Going to Africa and climbing Mount Kilimanjaro really helped me become fearless about everything we do and this process of transforming my career and my business. All those things need lots of courage. There’s a lot of learning curve, a lot of things I have to grow myself to become the person to do my calling. When I realized my calling is so big, it’s very scary. I find the courage to do that because I got in touch with my deep, really true calling and understand how when that true self in me has that capability, that power just like my inner doctor. That is where I’m so grateful. Not just for my mom and dad and Sheffra, but all these people along the way has helped me discover my true self and also my inner power. That is a message I like to share with not only my Asian women friends, but also everyone, that we have that inner power in us. If only we believe it’s there and we go seek it and truly bring it out of us. That is our duty in our life. Life is so short.
I think that most people, especially Asian women, underestimate the value of working with a life coach. Most of us cannot see our blind spot unless we work with somebody who can guide us through our journey and show us how to tap into our true self. It is hard to live the life you desire without that help. I want to remind you that this is what I do, to help people see their blind spots. If you want to explore what life coach is about, go to my website www.RippleImpactCoaching.com.
CEO Space is not the only entrepreneur organization that I got involved with along my personal growth journey. It’s in CEO Space that I met my life coach that really transformed and helped me really bring the best out of me and helped me see my calling and my mission and how I also see who I was when I was a little kid and saw how amazing our parents. Whatever our parents do when we were little, can have such a big impact. In addition to the influence our parents have on us on our life, whether it’s good or bad, along the way as we become adults, with the help of life coaches, for me, in my case with Sheffra and a couple of other coaches that I had worked with really helped bring the best out of us and see us. They are like a mirror. They show us who we really are and bring that out of us so that we can really, truly live the life we want and deserve and be so happy.
I can’t tell you how happy I am ever since I truly found my calling. I wake up every day and it’s so empowering to know that every day you get to work on your mission in life. You’re helping the people by sharing your story and sharing your life message and impacting so many lives that you never know how many lives you impact. You’re just doing your role in life. That’s my assignment. It’s how satisfying that is when you are in your element. You are doing what only you can do and see. Kimchi, you are doing what God and the Universe guides you to do and I am doing what I am cut out to do. Every one of us is unique and our life path is unique and everyone has to bring something to the table to contribute to the evolution of humanity. That is the best ideal situation. In that way, everyone of us is happy.
You seem like a very calm and happy person. Do you compromise or tolerate anything in your life?
I’m sure growing up there’s a lot of compromise and tolerating I had to do. For us, coming from China and the Chinese Revolution, I think we were in a lot of fear and also this pressure to conform to not stand out, to have our own beliefs and our own individual thinking. The way we grow up, for myself, financially, my family when we came to the US, we only had $100. I remember my mom was telling me that she only had $100 bill in her pocket. How did my parents got through all those difficult times coming here and make a living and bringing up both my sister and I through school all these years? Somehow they did it. I did not really get to learn the healthy mindset about how to deal with money and manage money and I guess I was spoiled. Growing up and when I come to have to do my own money, finances and also when it comes to managing it and investing. All those are the thing around money, I have the most difficult time because I never get to learn it.
Just as other people may be dealing with health issues, they didn’t know about their inner doctor. For me, it’s not about the health part, but it’s the finance part. There are a lot of things I need to learn and grow. There are a lot of compromises along the way. I take them as challenges that make life a colorful and interesting. If we don’t have problems to solve, life becomes boring. Definitely, I have my ups and downs. I could see that another thing I have, a lot of challenges in is relationship. Growing up, I don’t know about you, but my parents have a lot of problems with me regarding having boyfriends. All along, my parents have lots of problems with all the boys I meet. I ended up having a lot of issues between me and my parents revolving my relationships with boys. That is in my life in relationships.
Life has challenges. We all have our own different challenges to deal with and overcome. For me, I really am grateful that I think the best thing that happened to me is to have a coach to help me climb this mountain. Life is a mountains that we climb. My coach showed me the way to climb this mountain one step at a time. When I climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, it took seven days even though it’s just a short seven days trip, it’s a mini version of how life is. If I just climbed the mountain myself without the mountain guides, the local people that the lead us up the mountain show us the way. I’m thinking if in life, if we don’t have life coaches, we could go spend a long time to climb that mountain and to go with a lot of deviations. We will pick a lot of long ways to climb up the mountain.
With a coach, we can go up the mountain much faster and take shorter routes and maybe we don’t have to take the long route up. Eventually, we will get up to the top, I’m sure. Having coaches is like having a mountain guide to help you get to where you want to go in a shorter time and less headaches that you have to deal with. After I climbed the mountain, on top of Mount Kilimanjaro, I launch the movement I called Climb Every Mountain Self-Care Movement with the idea that I took care of myself using the self-care skills that I want to teach people. The idea is that life has lots of mountains that we climb. We are presenting all the life challenges and health is one of the mountain that I like to be a mountain guide to teach them if you know these self-care skills and you can climb any mountain in your life. Without health, if you don’t have a healthy body, you cannot do these other things, other endeavors, other aspects of life that you want to do in your business, your family, you need to have good health. I’m just one of the guides for people for another way of living a good life.
How long does it take for one to go through the Climb Every Mountain Self-Care Program?
What our nonprofit teaches people the basics of self-care. We teach people how to do the self massages on the different parts of the body I call control panels, which are the head, the ears, the hands. It varies. It could be one hour workshops to do an introduction. We are working on multiple workshops as a series of workshops. Right now we are working with several hospitals and non-profits. I’m working with moms and babies and young children to learn how to do the self-care. We have a fourteen-week series, a weekly class. Each time, it’s about one and half hour. The idea is to teach them these different self-care techniques to boost the immune system, to prevent them getting sick. When they have illness or have pain, they can heal themselves with these simple techniques. Our most and foremost important project we want to work on now is with moms and babies that’s dealing with the opiate epidemic.
It really breaks my heart when I hear that every 25 minutes, a baby is born in this country with the opiate dependence. They are dealing with having to suffer and endure these painful withdrawals after they are born with moms that are having the opiate addictions. Their mom’s dealing with opiate addiction. These babies, having their moms taking the opiate throughout their pregnancy, these babies also become dependent on the medication, the opiate substance. Luckily, the good news is there are there studies proven that acupressure can help these babies and these moms to relieve their withdrawal symptoms without them having to take so much of the medications. It’s a non-drug way to help them help their body. Again, now is really bringing out the power of their inner doctor. This population, the moms and the babies dealing with these challenges are one of the most urgent populations that we want to help and bring the benefit, the power of the self acupressure.
Getting these moms to realize how powerful the self-healing is. We are working on developing these classes that we want to teach the hospital nurses that works at the NICU and also teaching the moms themselves and the dads also to help the babies to deal with these painful withdrawals. For adults, it’s so painful to deal with these withdrawal symptoms. You can imagine the babies just born and they’re helpless and they have to endure such painful experiences. It’s really heartbreaking. Not to mention, their whole brain development is impacted because of these medications that they need to take. We’re really hoping that the non-drug therapy can help minimize the long-term lifelong impact these babies might have to go through. That is one of our highest priority for the non-profit that I found.
